Welcome to Sacred In You, dedicated to creating celebrations and rituals to honor important events in life
We want to give you the tools and information you need to create your own ceremonies as a way to honor the sacred in all of us. You may use these rituals for loved ones, friends or yourselves, for one person or for many. We'll show you how to create personal, meaningful, powerful rituals that you and your loved ones may use to strengthen your connections with the sacredness in life. We honor the universal sacredness that exists in you and in all of life, so everyone from all religious traditions or philosophical beliefs may perform these rituals.
Alan Cyr, is a software engineer by profession and an Aikidoist at heart, who, along with his spouse, Rev. Diana Hunter, have created sacred ceremonies for themselves, their friends, and loved ones since 1992.
Diana Hunter, is a spiritual holistic healer by profession and a philosopher at heart, who has created sacred ceremonies for herself and others since 1985, beginning with her work as a Christian minister.
"Worship was always my favorite part of ministry," Rev. Hunter, a former ...more
What are rituals?
Throughout time, people have been performing rituals--a set of well thought-out, symbolic actions--for all kinds of reasons and for all kinds of events in their lives. These rituals may be as simple as shaking someone's hand in greeting or as elaborate as the Japanese tea ceremony. Everyone performs rituals in some form or another, not just individuals, but even businesses (like ribbon cutting when opening a new store) and governments (like the groundbreaking that takes place with the officials and VIPs with their hard hats and shovels).
Rituals involve using symbolism. When we shake hands in greeting, it is a connection to the past, a time when a gesture of an open palm showed a person came unarmed and in peace. Through the years, the gesture has evolved and, although most of us don't carry weapons, a ritual handshake is still a symbol of peace and goodwill in meeting. Another example of symbolism is when we light candles on a birthday cake to represent the years in our lives. In sacred ceremony, we use symbolism as well. For example, during a house blessing, we may sprinkle water around a house to symbolize purification and cleansing.
Participants of all ages may take part in sacred ceremonies. Young, old, and everyone in between may participate. Sometimes we use physical things, like rattles, drums, or body movement, to symbolize and activate desired changes. This activity may be playful and fun, like stomping feet or clapping, or it may be serious, like singing a solemn song to express the loss of a loved one.
What do we mean by sacred? When we come together with the intent to resonate with our best selves, we connect with the sacredness of life. Whatever name that we give to this sacred source and power - God or Goddess, Universe, Spirit, Nature, Love - we connect with this energy when we create and perform sacred ritual. Sacred rituals are ways to share experience and to establish connections - connections to other human beings, animals, and the earth, connections to our past and our future, connections to the best in ourselves and in life.
Why create rituals?
Although many religious traditions offer sacred ceremonies to honor rites of passage such as births, weddings, and funerals, many traditions neglect to offer ceremonies for other life changes such as moving into a new home, finding a new job, or getting ready for a pet companion to pass over.
When we have experienced suffering or pain, rituals enable us to work with these past physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual traumas and bring resolution and healing. Sacred ceremonies offer a way of tilling the soil of our psyches to create fertile ground for growth during and after the following: relationship break-up and divorce, surgery, losing an unborn child, abuse (emotional or physical), death of loved one (human or animal), war, violence, and natural catastrophes.
We create sacred ceremonies as a way to infuse more spirit energy into our everyday existence. In this day and age, many of our lives often have become so busy and disconnected, so jam-packed with activities, that we may find it difficult to take the time to do the things that nourish and replenish us, the things that meaningfully connect us to our family and friends. We are energy beings. As we move through life, our energy touches and interacts with everyone we come in contact with, whether we are aware of it or not. In rituals we are conscious of our energy, the energy of others, and the spirit energy we bring, creating connections between participants – people, places, animals, earth. When we connect to this spirit energy, taking the time to create and perform our own special rituals, we consciously infuse the very best of ourselves into our daily existence.
When to create rituals?
Rituals are appropriate for any occasion, from celebrating the birth of a new child to honoring the passing of a grandparent, from lining up a weekend getaway to preparing for a major geographic move, from celebrating a birthday to marking the passing of the seasons. When we come together in ritual with our friends and loved ones, we put aside our daily cares and offer the best of ourselves. This intent, to consciously connect with the best in ourselves and the best in others, enables us, the other participants, and those we focus on, to receive blessings, positive energy, and healing power. This eases transitions, creates wholesome changes, and celebrates life, as we choose to live life to its fullest.
What is needed to create rituals?
Here on this site, we give you a basic outline of the steps involved in creating sacred space and creating an altar. We give you access to specific rituals that we and others have used time and time again with success. You may at some point decide to create your own ceremonies. Whatever sacred ceremony you create, you will need to have a few sacred tools.
The tools you use during your ceremony may be as simple or elaborate as you want. You may use things around the house like glassware and photos. Often using things from nature like rocks and flowers are appropriate and convenient. If and when you are ready, you may buy or build your own special sacred tools. Some common items are: an abalone shell and large feather for smudging, colorful candles for an altar, and goblet or bowl for holding water for house blessings.
The sacred ritual tools are objects to focus the energy--it's the intent that transforms an object into a ceremonial tool. For example, a coffee mug from the kitchen works just as well for holding water as a crystal encrusted sterling silver goblet.
There is no right or wrong way to do rituals, but there are ethics involved.
The intent of your ritual is important. There is a universal law that however you speak, think, and act in sacred space will be magnified and intensified. Therefore, it is imperative that you try to keep the actions, words, thoughts, and interactions as positive, gentle, and loving as possible. Treat everyone during your ritual like you would like to be treated, with respect and honor. For example, since you want to respect peoples' and animals' free will to accept or decline whatever is being offered, you might want to say "according to the free will of all" at the end of your ceremony.
Keep the words positive. You will want to word things positively as well. Instead of saying what you don't want, say what you do want. For example, during a travel ritual for a business trip replace "I'm afraid of a delayed airplane flight on my trip and not getting my work done on time," with the more powerful and positive wording "I want to have a safe and productive trip." Keeping things positive and respectful will bring out more of the best things in you, and in others, during and after the sacred ceremony.